You cannot escape Christmas anywhere: streets are lit up with coloured lights and neon stars, and it seems every second house is adorned with dazzling lighting displays that seem to be part of some great social competition – more expectations. So what if you’re just not into Christmas and see it as just another holiday? Is it really necessary to get caught up in all the hype?
I have been contemplating Christmas and the effects of the economic slowdown, with several points coming to mind. Buying gifts for all and sundry is out for many people this year due to tighter finances, and many of us are looking for other ways to add value to the holiday other than just throwing money at it.
Why do we get stressed out at Christmas?
A lot of stress is created when our situation doesn’t line up with our expectation. This is especially true at Christmas. For a lot of people, the family tradition of buying nice gifts for everyone we know has been a lifelong one, and learning to break it or replace it with something new has created an air of uncertainty – can we really change the way we do things and be happy with it?
For some of us, not knowing what to expecxt, or at least, expecting a bad experience makes us want to run and hide, or just flip the calendar; roll-on New Years!
Our materialistic society has made us value the gifting aspect of Christmas too much, with all the messages of how it is “better to give than receive”. We all know that warm glow when you give someone the perfect gift. So how are you supposed to feel when you are unable to give anything?
Of course, for the wealthy, this is never a problem. Are we right to assume then that those who can afford lots of nice presents this year are better people than those of us who cannot?
Should we boycott Christmas altogether?
For some of us, Christmas is and has always been a great time of year. Families getting together having lavish feasts and joyful times. At the core of the holiday though, is a religious celebration.
So what do we do if we’re not “religious” christians?
If we decide not to get into the spirit of Christmas, we are labelled as anti-christian, or grinches. Whatever happened to the live-and-let-live philosophy?
Surely anyone espousing the virtues of christianity should be able to accept other people’s right to have nothing to do with the holiday. I see the whole expectation element as a judgmental and hypocritical concept; just another way for self-righteous people to impose their will upon others.
Personally, I hate this time of year and can hardly wait for things to resort to normality.
Thinking about making marriage work – why divorce is a one-sided decision and how to avoid it.
I have had cause lately to consider the situation of a married couple I know quite well. They seem to have a problem with communication and the possibility of divorce has been aired as a possibility unless things improve.
As a person who “survived” a divorce I find myself well qualified to advise others who may be entertaining the idea that divorce is a good option. From my own experience I found my marriage breakup and consequent divorce to be the most earth-shattering and devastating event in my life, and I would strongly recommend married couples to always look for better options.
Remember, when most people enter marriage, they make a commitment to remain with their spouse til death, and it is a commitment usually made after serious consideration.
These days it seems the decision to split up is made in many cases after less consideration than what was given when the marriage was formed. Or at least, different factors are considered and the reasons for the couple committing to each other in the first place are forgotten or no longer viewed as relevant.
I wonder how many couples actually split up because of a mutual desire to do so, as opposed to those situations where one person exclusively takes the decision to leave the other person.
A marriage is a contract entered into by both partners willingly (we are talking about NORMAL marriages) and in many if not most cases, most major decisions from that point on will and should involve an amount of communication and collaboration between the partners. To many this would seem logical and a natural process. If you care deeply about someone, why wouldn’t you naturally want to consult them when making big decisions.
So why do we go it alone when times get tough?
If it is ok to make the easy decisions together, why not the hard ones? Why does one person secretly decide they want to split up the marriage, then drop the D-bomb on their partner at an opportune time?
Before tackling any of the questions, it might be prudent to look at the bigger picture. The fact that one partner is considering ANY major issue or problem alone boils down to one simple truth: that the communication process in the marriage is failing.
The ability for a couple to converse amicably is crucial, and keeping the lines of communication open is the single most important factor in maintaining any healthy relationship. Everyone has problems and issues to deal with at times, and without effective communication, a unified sense of direction is not possible.
When communication fails, chaos ensues, and negative factors are more likely to influence the decision-making process. Keeping connected with your partner through good communication is therefore essential in staving off negative influences and channeling your combined energies towards more positive results.
On a personal, individual level, it is important to understand that divorce is NOT an option, and anyone considering it needs to address the underlying communication problem before contemplating walking away from their marriage.
Now, I am not saying that it is good to stay with a partner who is abusive or unfaithful – those are serious issues which also need to be addressed, and nobody should tolerate a situation where their physical wellbeing is at risk. Professional help exists for anyone finding themselves in that type of situation.
Remember that abuse comes in many forms, not just physical violence. Emotional blackmail, restriction of “privileges” and other punitive actions are also forms of abuse, and can have serious effects on a relationship and the lives of either or both partners.
In particular, when one person threatens their partner with divorce, it is an attack on that person’s very soul, and one that can rock their self image to the core. The true crime is that when a person has a deeper personal commitment to the marriage, the received threat is consequently more damaging – both to them as an individual, AND to their ability to care for and love others.
The potential harm that can be caused by a threat of divorce is so great that surely nobody who truly cares about their partner would ever make it. To do so indicates either a callous, vindictive nature or at the very least a highly ignorant one. People are just too valuable and vulnerable to risk hurting in that way.
So how do we avoid the mistake of ever considering divorce?
Realise that divorce is not an option. The only option is to take steps to improve your relationship.
You only have one chance at this life, so it is a good idea to take steps to feed your relationships along the way, especially your marriage.
Remember that it was communication that brought you and your partner together in the first place, and it is an ongoing commitment to communication that will keep you together and keep your relationship vibrant and exciting as you travel through life together.
Understand that your partner has skills and abilities to influence in different spheres of life that you may not be aware of: they may have underlying talents that you don’t know about yet.
It is important to afford your partner the freedom of expression that lets them pursue their own goals knowing they have your full support.
Remember, your spouse is a full partner in your marriage just as much as you are, and they have the right to depend on your backing the same as you do on theirs.
While your lines of work may be different, by communicating effectively about your goals you can ensure that you are both heading in the same direction.
Take time personally to visualise what you think a good marriage should be, and talk about that vision with your partner.
This may be the crucial point in the entire issue.
When you each understand what the other expects it is far more likely that you will work together to meet those expectations than if you are both running blind.
Listen to your partner’s vision and expectations – remember, they are as committed to your marriage as you are, so their feelings are just as valid as yours.
Think before you speak.
Learn how to talk about problems with your partner before they get out of hand.
If you are faced with problems at work, tell your partner about the issues you are facing without trying to make them feel guilty about it. Remember – you decided your own career path, not them.
If you can’t seem to find a good balance between your marriage and your job, CHANGE YOUR JOB!!! No career is worth destroying your marriage over. Take my word for it – a divorce will cost you your career anyway, so take steps that will help keep your sanity and your marriage intact.
At any rate, you should understand that a marriage provides you with an incredible support structure, one that can help you achieve any goals in life and business that you choose to target, but it can only work when you play your part and remain committed to it.
Keep those lines of communication open – talk to your partner about your goals and dreams as well as your worries and concerns.
Life is not an easy journey, and knowing you can count on someone is incredibly important. Remember that your partner wants to know they can always count on you as well.
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It is important to keep the focus on the Climategate scandal for the timebeing.
With the Copenhagen Climate Conference in full swing, we need to keep the pressure on, keep spreading the word to every corner at least for the next couple of weeks. If we fail to make enough noise about it, then the carbon taxes WILL be imposed. It is imperative that Obama of the USA, John Key of New Zealand, and other world leaders do not sign a binding agreement.
Key’s New Zealand government has already passed emmissions trading legislation here, but having that revoked should not be too difficult once the Copenhagen agreement is quashed.
Remember, the reason these agreements must not be signed is that they impose massive, unjustifiable taxes on regular people who are just seeking to live their lives peacefully.
Here in New Zealand, the majority of intelligent, thinking people have never consciously subscribed to the climate change theory, but many of us have been guilty of just going with the flow, finding it easier to let politicians decide our fate.
I must applaud the efforts of one of our top media personalities though. Mr Leighton Smith, a talkshow host on the Newstalk ZB radio station has always been vocal about his opposition to the global warming/climate change theory, at least the part that assigns blame to humankind as the root cause of any change. Smith is a well respected talk host who runs a well grounded, level headed programme that has possibly the highest listener audience of any daily radio programme in the country.
How ironic or coincidental that Al Gore has now cancelled his scheduled keynote speech at the Copenhagen Climate Conference. Very interesting…
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If you have not downloaded the Climategate emails for yourself yet then you need to do so fast and start reading.
They are available for free download here.
Also, you should watch Alex Jones’ video on Youtube for an overview and some details on the issue.
This is the single most important news event in modern history. One of the ironies is that the mainstream media channels is hushing it up. Unfortunately it’s an irony that we can’t afford to waste time on, we must take action.
You know that the Copenhagen Conference is happening right now, right? Well, you should realize that at that conference, they are attempting to sign global deals that subject us all to crazy carbon taxes. Carbon is the building block of all life!! What on earth are they doing?
What they are doing is creating a global tax network which is the first binding act of the global government.
I am not scaremongering here: this is the real deal.
Anyway, I have read a stack of the emails and they really show a concerted effort by a group of “scientists” to distort the facts, manipulate data, bully other dissenting scientists, and blatantly lie to make us believe that something is a proven fact where is really has never been proven.
If you have ever wanted to do ANYTHING really good in your life, now is the time to do it.
Download the emails and the other documents, read some of them and learn the truth about these lying ***** who are trying to control us.
Climategate is here, it’s now, and it is time for us to act.
Download the Climategate emails here:
www.theclimategateemails.manyblogs.info
The successful launch of New Zealand’s first suborbital rocket has created history today by being the first rocket launched into space by a privately owned company in the southern hemisphere.
Atea-1 made its maiden voyage today after this morning’s delay due to a fuel problem. A small valve needed to be flown across from the mainland and was fitted by engineers before the rocket was refulled for another attempt. The delay was initially hoped to be three hours but this turned into seven and final clearance for countdown was given this afternoon.
Click here to watch the video of the successful launch.
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So John Key has declined requests for him to attend the Copenhagen Climate Conference. Perhaps he realises that the entire global warming issue has been nothing more than a scam.
Key is held in high regard by many New Zealanders, and his popularity is set to rise again now he has remained defiant over continued requests for him to attend the conference.
Leaked emails and computer data now circulating around the internet show a collaborative effort between climate scientists has been the main reason for the Global Warming/Climate crisis.
The released data clearly show efforts to include fabricated data in computer simulation programs in an effort to convince the public of false concerns over man-made global warming.
US president Obama is expected to try to salvage the climate conference which is now being called into question from all corners of the globe.
So the Global Warming debate has now been blown wide open by the leaking of emails and other digital documents which give evidence of a grand conspiracy to mislead the public about global temperatures.
Climategate has now overtake global warming on google as a search term, and internet blogs are running hot with postings that expose the entire global warming industry for what it is: a revenue earner for scientists and politicians who are prepared to sell that which they truly do not believe in.
We have been given permission to publish the following article from the PrisonPlanet website.
NucEngineer Says:
November 29th, 2009 at 9:48 am
An easy explanation of what ClimateGate means,
ClimateGate emails and computer programs were taken from a main server at the Climate Research Unit of the University of East Anglia. It is not known if this was a theft or the actions of a whistleblower, disgusted with what the lead scientists at CRU were doing.
ClimateGate exposed the cabal of 20 – 30 scientists (not just at CRU) that peer reviewed each others papers, strong-armed scientific journals to only print their views, and then sat on the IPCC panels as authors judging which published studies go into the IPCC final reports. This is why they always keep shouting “peer reviewed studies, peer reviewed studies, peer reviewed studies”. They owned the peer review process.
ClimateGate exposed that this small group has been adding positive corrections to the raw global temperature data, inflating the amount of published temperature rise over the last 50 years. Both CRU in the UK and NASA-GISS in the US add these biases. At CRU, the programmers did not even know what and why some corrections were added every month. Only since satellite monitoring for comparison have the amounts of biasing leveled off.
ClimateGate exposed the leaders of this cabal instructing each other to delete emails, data files, and data analysis programs ahead of already filed Freedom Of Information Act requests for raw data and computer codes, clearly a crime.
ClimateGate exposed the “trick” about the Hockey stick figure and other studies that performed proxy construction of past temperatures. After all, reconstruction of the last 1,000 years of climate is the first step in predicting the future with super computer programs as explained below:
Everything about all 21 super computer programs used by the IPCC to determine future global warming rely on best-determined past sensitivities to solar and volcanic effects (climate forcings) from the proxy temperature record.
1. The elimination of the Medieval Warm Period and the Little Ice Age (the handle of the hockey stick) was necessary so that past solar effects could be minimized, thereby allowing almost all of the warming in the last 75 years to be blamed on Greenhouse Gasses. Raw data (like tree-ring thickness, radioisotope of mud layers in a lake bottom, ice core analyses, etc.) are used as a proxy for reconstruction of the temperature record for 1000 AD to 1960 AD. To ensure desired results, statistical manipulation of the raw data and selecting only supporting data, cherry-picking, was suspected and later proved.
2. The slope of long-term 10-year running average global temperature using thermometers from 1900 to present (the blade of the hockey stick) was maximized with the sloppy gridding code, Urban Heat Island effects, hiding the declines, and even fabricating data (documented in the leaked source code comments revealed with ClimateGate). This ensured that the Greenhouse Gas effect coefficient in all 21 of the super computers was maximized, and that maximizes the temperature result at year 2100 based on Greenhouse Gas increases. This thermometer data was used to replace the tree ring-divergence after 1960 and plot this over the climate history data of (1) above giving the false impression that the reconstructed 1000 AD to 1960 AD results are more accurate than they are.
3. Because tuning of the super computer programs uses back casting, the computer outputs could always replicate the 20th Century (by design); therefore it was assumed that the models had almost everything in them. Because of (1) and (2) above, nearly all climate change predicted by the models was due to CO2 and positive feedbacks and hardly any of the climate change was for other reasons like solar, understood or not.
4. Over the years, when better numbers for volcanic effects, black carbon, aerosols, land use, ocean and atmospheric multi-decadal cycles, etc. became available, it appears that CRU made revisions to refit the back cast, but could hardly understand what the code was doing due to previous correction factor fudging and outright fabricating, as documented in the released code as part of ClimateGate.
5. After the IPCC averages the 21 super computer outputs of future projected warming (anywhere from 2-degrees to 7-degrees, not very precise), that output is used to predict all manner of catastrophes. (Fires, floods, droughts, blizzards, hurricanes, tornadoes, earthquakes, insects, extinctions, diseases, civil wars, cats & dogs sleeping together, etc.)
So shut-up or be called a denier,
live the way we tell you to live,
pay more for everything, and
just send money for my research on the effects of global climate change on horseshoe crabs (which have been around for about 440 million years through all possible temperature ranges).
I hope that this makes the ClimateGate controversy easier to understand.
- end of article.
Blog posts like this abound on the internet now, even as mainstream, corporate owned media spiel out even more desperate pleas to the masses.
Perhaps the most telling fact is that the scientists themselves have not denied writing the emails.
For many of us, the entire global warming argument has seemed an obvious jackup from day one. A great way to sell a bunch of books and hand out Nobel peace prizes to all and sundry.
Now that the truth behind the scam has been exposed we are finally vindicated.
Sometimes conspiracy theories, like any other theories, are right.
The launch of New Zealand’s first suborbital rocket has been delayed this morning due to a technical problem.
The Atea-1, due to be launched from Great Mercury Island is to be propelled by a revolutionary type of fuel and jet/rocket motor. The rocket along with its 2kg payload of experimental computer equipment is expected to reach a height of 120km above the earth’s surface, officially 20km into the realm of space.
The launch has been delayed by nitrous oxide causing a coupling to freeze – spilling the vapour and all but putting to and end hopes of a launch today.
Development of the rocket by privately owned aerospace company Rocket Lab, has taken over three years and mainly been funded by private investment, with an injection of funding from the New Zealand government. If successful, the launch will mark the first time a privately owned company has launched a rocket into space from the southern hemisphere.
New Zealand is well known for its clean-green image and the creators of the rocket are keen to promote the idea of using “green” technologies in their work. The Atea-1 has been designed to operate extremely efficiently with a brand new motor and fuel combination that drastically reduces emissions and environmental impacts.
The cutting edge technology will set a new benchmark in rocket propulsion and put New Zealand at the forefront of space development. It is envisaged that once the technology has been proven by the initial launch then it will be emulated in larger rockets. For many, the reduction of environmental impact is seen as a huge boost to the entire space programme which has long been seen as wasteful and a big polluter.
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Human rights groups are demanding that Fonterra and the New Zealand government to condemn the executions in China over the contaminated milk saga.
State sanctioned executions are never good, and sympathy for the familes affected is natural. Maybe the NZ govt and Fonterra should condemn the executions. In my opinion, Fonterra should be taking more responsibility for the whole affair, and the way I see it, Fonterra management have blood on their hands.
Of course, Fonterra are a massive player in the global dairy industry, and are hardly likely to take notice of a solitary blogger, but it WAS known that the dodgy contamination practises were occuring and company anagement could have acted sooner to clamp down on it.
Fonterra is collectively owned by thouands of dairy farmers who each should be ashamed at their own greed which has, directly or indirectly, had some part in the execution of two chinese men.
Condemn corporate greed I say.
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As the pressure starts to come from all sides this Christmas, it is important to take a step back and loosen your load, if only for a few days.
I was discussing the subject of Christmas Holidays with a family member who also happens to be a great friend, and it seems a good time to open that discussion up for our readers’ enlightenment.
Here in New Zealand, as in all southern hemisphere countries, christmas arrives in the summer, and is when we have our main holiday season. Schools generally finish up for the year early in December and reopen again at the beginning of February.
Many businesses close-down or run on skeleton-staff for a couple of weeks from a few days before christmas to around the 10th of January or thereabouts. Therefore it can be a tricky time to contact businesses during this time – or at least, you may not get a rapid reply to any queries.
So keep this in mind when dealing with companies in the southern hemisphere. Try to finalise any dealings before 20 Decemberand unless you have made specific arrangements, don’t expect many companies to be replying to most queries until around 10 January. Of course, the A1LifeStore team NEVER takes a break, so your emails will still be answered quickly.
Upcoming Features:
Keep an eye out for our special Christmas recipes over the next week and the reintroduction of our pet section. This section was sadly missed and has taken longer than expected to be revamped but is almost ready to be rolled out so stay tuned.
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